S1E8 | Conflict: From Avoidance to Acceptance

Have you ever ghosted someone instead of just telling them how you felt? Same.

Conflict avoidance is basically a love language in Asian households, and most of us inherited it without even realising. We learnt to give silent treatment, people please until we snapped, or just... disappeared. We were never really taught that conflict could actually bring you closer to someone.

In today's episode, Vi-An and Amanda get honest about their own messy, cringe-worthy, and ultimately growth-filled journeys with conflict - from ghosting a boyfriend for two weeks in high school to accidentally screaming at a car on a bike ride.

We spill tea on:

🍵 Why conflict avoidance is a trauma response, not a personality trait

🍵 The difference between a boundary and an expectation (they're not the same thing)

🍵 What it actually looks like to work through conflict as adults

🍵 How your body knows you're in conflict before your brain does

🍵 How structural oppression teaches marginalised communities to keep themselves small and silent

We learned the hard way that avoiding conflict doesn't keep the peace, it just keeps their peace at the cost of yours.

So if you've been swallowing your opinions, ghosting your problems, or waiting for conflict to just resolve itself, brew yourself a cup and sip along as we spill the jasmine tea.

 

RESOURCES & LINKS

• Vi-An Nguyen – https://www.instagram.com/antampsychology/
• Amanda Huynh – https://www.instagram.com/heyitsamanda.x/