S1E3 | Boundaries: Respecting My Parents and Myself

If you grew up in an Asian household, boundaries probably weren’t a thing. Saying “I won’t pick up the phone during work” was never going to land. So how do you set boundaries with parents who raised you in survival mode — and who see you as an extension of themselves?

In this episode of Spilling the Jasmine Tea, we unpack the messy, emotional, and often taboo topic of boundaries with Asian parents. From unspoken expectations to guilt, resentment, and the courage to finally choose yourself — Amanda and Vi-An spill the real, unfiltered tea.

You’ll hear stories about:

🍵 Growing up as the “default helper” in immigrant households

🍵 Being woken up from sleep because every issue feels urgent

🍵 Enmeshment, guilt, and the fear of “abandoning” your parents

🍵 Why our parents’ nervous systems are wired for survival

🍵 How learning to ask for what you need changes everything

Through honest conversation, cultural insight, and a whole lot of compassion, we explore how boundaries don’t break relationships — they help us love ourselves and our parents simultaneously.

So brew yourself a warm cup of jasmine tea, and sip along as we spill the Jasmine Tea on boundaries, survival mode, and healing across generations.

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RESOURCES & LINKS

• We Are Here - Cat Thao Nguyen
• Prentis Hemphill - https://www.instagram.com/prentishemphill/
• Amanda Huynh – https://www.instagram.com/heyitsamanda.x/
• Vi-An Nguyen – https://www.instagram.com/antampsychology/